I polled and you ignored. I gave you a kick in the ass and you answered: 75% of my readers think dating is not an ok extracurricular event for 6th graders. I agree, too, but I thought, just for a minute, that I was being an overly protective, neurotic parent. I've been accused of crazy mom behavior in the past so it really helps me to have an objective opinion. Or in this case twelve objective opinions.
Madhubby and I discussed it, too. We agree that if some parents are ok with their tweens dating right now, then we'll just have to limit Lizzie's interaction with those tweens as much as possible. It will be hard but not impossible. I know we can't control what goes on at school, but we certainly have a say about whom she can invite over for a playdate or a sleepover. So, we'll just gently steer her towards "acceptable" friendships and hope she doesn't catch on. It could work.
In the meantime, I'll keep reading her e-mails and text messages. Don't act all shocked. If kids are going to be secretive - and they are - then I have no choice but to go covert.